Does sex without love please?
Nowadays, more and more people are choosing sexual freedom.
We have always been inevitably influenced in connecting the concept of 'sex' or with that of 'love', but by now the great '' lobbies '' of thought (such as the Church, for example), have no longer followed as much as they once were. Mentalities change, become more fluid, and expand gradually. Sex has always been a delicate issue, to be addressed with caution, especially when the female world enters the scene. The number of sex workers in the world and in Italy, especially Naples escorts, has increased dramatically precisely because progress is aimed at eliminating the barriers of social moralism.
The witch hunt period is (almost completely) over for centuries, and it can be said that ... Yes! Women are at least as satisfied with loveless sex as men. The statistics speak for themselves.
'' Nobody can judge me, not even you ... ''
Who has never received a lecture from their old school parents or has never heard one of them try to clumsily explain the dynamics of protected relationships to warn us? One is led to think of the couple as an eternal and indestructible union, but sex as an end in itself pointed out as the devil himself. So what does the brain do to 'purify' the terrible image of sex? It combines the two! So if the latter is related to the couple, it is less bad.
But will this really be the case? Are we sure that every couple we know is in love? And if it isn't, who tells us they enjoy sex less?
Many people choose to have carnal intercourse
Without being emotionally involved for various reasons: first of all not having the obligation to carry on a stable relationship, secondly because you like sex and it is natural to want to put it into practice.
Hormones are not only activated when we are bombarded with thoughts of the crush of the heart, but they are always on the move regardless of our emotions. You just have to discern who is worth doing with, to avoid the hassle. But otherwise, it is a completely legitimate choice. If our body needs sex, it is because we are biologically structured like this and we have the right to be able to put it into practice even before the fateful marriage. That other mental structures dictated by society are then applied ... unfortunately it depends on the context in which one is born. A determining factor in young people, unfortunately.
Therefore sex is not synonymous with involvement and we should avoid judging those who have intimate relationships in all freedom.
The important thing, of course, is that the relationship is protected and that you feel respected.
As individuals, the choice of how to manage our life is up to us alone. Some of our adventures could also turn into a beautiful journey or a long love story ... why not? Many stories that culminated in marriages began just like this: from sex, it was discovered that you had a feeling that then lasted over time.
Better to avoid getting fixated on finding love: it is too abstract a concept that many people idealize and that, probably, they will never find. Our paths differ from each other, and just because a friend of ours found her ideal mate at 20, it doesn't mean that her existence will be all pink and flowers, and above all, it doesn't mean that it will be the same for us. it is right that everyone carries on their own experiences, without fear of the judgment of others! Otherwise, you risk being frustrated even in old age, following a disappointing American comedy idea.
Listen only to yourself
The absence of love in a relationship certainly doesn't prevent you from feeling aroused. Even science has repeatedly stated that casual sex gives many benefits since those who really manage to explore their emotions are those who experience numerous casual encounters. And truly knowing yourself and knowing what you want is the key to everything in life.
This does not mean that those who are also in love are falling into error, but we must be careful that the love-sex relationship does not become unhealthy to the point of turning into a toxic spiral and of morbid attachment to the other person. Love is often confused with addiction.
In the end, oxytocin is released on our own when we have attracted to someone, and with her all the rest of the hormones that make us feel ... at the top! Why give up these magnificent emotions even if they are not supported by an underlying ideal?
We physically and mentally need to loosen the brakes that keep us petrified on whether or not it would be good to do.
We should remember that the protagonists of our history are only us. And women should stop comparing their mentality to that of men: it will not be imitation that emancipates us. We step out of binary logic, push away the male and female concepts, and think of ourselves as universal individuals.
Sex helps to increase self-esteem because it makes us focus on being able to seduce and challenge ourselves. We are animals with predatory instincts because nature wants us to like this! Furthermore, an hour of experimentation is as good as a life of routine and monotony. Curiosity is what makes us human and helps us to evolve.
Is it so easy not to get emotionally involved?
If the sexual feeling is really intense, it could happen that two people end up being romantically involved, but this also depends on other factors, such as other things in common or if the time they spend together is of quality. Maybe the excellent sex, in the end, will lead to nothing if not to the exchange of the partner. So if one were to find a disadvantage of sex without love it would be that, in the long run, one could risk upsetting the original plans.
What happens next is very personal and differs from person to person, and cannot be judged in the slightest.
Everyone has a very personal approach to these issues. If you find yourself in a similar situation and are tormented by doubts as to whether it is right or wrong, the answer is: who cares! Life is one, and if it is what you really want, then your opinion is the only one that matters.